All of my life I’ve been known as a girly girl. I love clothes, jewelry, shoes, doing different things with my hair, etc. So you can imagine my dismay at the fact that my 7-year-old daughter is . . . a tomboy.
This is a recent development, within the last year or so. When Isabella was 3 and 4 years old, she frequently could be seen in a princess dress/tiara getup. She would beg me to let her wear some of my makeup and would don every hair clip she owned on her curly little locks. But now, she wouldn’t be caught dead wearing lipstick. Getting her to wear a dress is like pulling teeth. And her hair . . . oh, her hair. It clings close to her head on the top and gradually cascades into a bird’s nest of curls at the bottom. In the winter time it’s a dirty brown, and when she wears it down, it looks as if she hasn’t showered in days.
I know these are probably mean things to say about my daughter, but I’m saying it about her hair, not her, and what bugs me is, it doesn’t have to look like that! If she would let me style her hair a little, she’d look more put-together. But if I suggest so much as a barrette, she shakes her head adamantly. “No, Mom. I don’t want to look pretty.” What girl doesn’t want to look pretty?!?
So the other day I came up with an idea. I went online and looked for girls’ hairstyles, and Isabella and I went through the ones that would make her look proper but not pretty. *rolls eyes* I then tried some of the styles on her. My favorite one is fast and simple. I just separated the hair three ways at the part, twisted each section and bobby pinned them together. It looks cute but not too cute, and it keeps Isabella’s hair out of her face.
This is her hair before I styled it (and the way Isabella prefers to wear it):
And this is what it looked like after:
Now isn’t that lovely? It’s not too drastic a difference but enough to make her look nice, like every other 7-year-old girl we know.
She took the bobby pins out 30 seconds later.
I realize I’m being a bit like a crazy pageant mother about this, so I’m trying to back off. The last thing I want is for Isabella to become insecure because I make her feel like she doesn’t look good enough. But I also want her to look presentable when we go out in public. Is that too much to ask?