For the past three Thanksgivings, there's one question Harrison Karik of Berkeley, Calif., has had trouble dodging at the family meal. And it has nothing to do with a second slice of pie.

"Everyone wants to know when I'm going to get married," Karik says.

"But last time I checked, I don't even have a girlfriend."

It wouldn't be a holiday gathering without someone asking you a personal or inappropriate question, whether it's about your job, career, dress size or portfolio. Some people don't mean to be nosy (it just comes naturally), but it certainly can come across that way, especially when you're not particularly close or see each other once a year at such functions.

But you can avoid awkward situations by doing a little internal homework before the family event, says Oakland, Calif., marriage and family therapist Judy Levit. Just think about what you feel comfortable talking about and how much you want to share.

"You're not obligated to share everything and people don't necessarily want to know all the details," Levit says. "Think about what you can say that would satisfy your relatives without making yourself feel too vulnerable."

In the event our advice fails you, Levit and Amy Alkon, a Los Angeles-based syndicated advice columnist and author of McGraw-Hill's forthcoming "Revengerella," a book about the collapse of manners, provide some quick and snarky comebacks to five commonly asked nosy questions.

THE SUPERFICIAL: "Have you had any work done?"

Levit: It depends on your relationship to the person and how much you want to share, she says. Some women love talking about it. If you don't: "No, thank you for saying that. I'm just feeling wonderful these days."

Alkon: The game-change -- turn the tables and put it on the questioner: "No, I'm just genetically lucky, but if I decide to go under the knife I'll try to benefit from all your experience." A good alternative: playing dumb, as if it's unfathomable that she would ask such an inappropriate question. Try this: "We had a man in a few weeks ago to have the rain gutters done."

MUTE WEDDING BELLS: "When are you going to get married?"

Levit: Depends. "Still working on it" works. So does "I'm having a great time being single, so it's not an urgent thing for me." If she's nosy, chances are she's also a matchmaker. Might as well find out by saying: "I'm dying to. Know someone?"

Alkon: "When I tire from indiscriminate sex with strangers." Or, if you really want to end the conversation: "I don't believe in marriage."

THE RUDENESS SCALE: "Have you gained/lost weight?"

Levit: "Yes, I have." Or, "I was hoping nobody would notice."

Alkon: Lost: "I had a 12-year-old surgically removed from my back last week." Gained: "I just started buying pants that make my butt look big."

WOMB WONDER: "When are you going to start a family?"

Levit: Stick with an answer that is gracious. "We're talking about it, and it's an important decision for us to make. As soon as I'm pregnant, everyone will know about it."

Alkon: "Tonight, if we don't think we'll wake anyone." Or, play dumb: "A family of what?"

SENIOR-NOSY-ITIS: "Isn't it time for you to retire?"

Levit: Go with the little white lie. "I really like my job so I've decided to keep working for a few more years. We like it. I'm not in my wife's hair all the time."

Alkon: "I just got here."